UNDER PRESSURE

Around the world, millions of women feel the need to achieve specific 'goals' by a certain age to avoid being considered obsolete, leftover or expired as marriage material. 
Last month I hit 27, according to a survey conducted by skincare brand, SK-II*, both men and women suggested 27 is a female's prime age. Prime age for what exactly though? Settling down? Marriage? Kids? Or an on-track career? 
The same survey also revealed 1 out of 3 women in Asia feel that there’s a pre-decided timeline for how to live your life and when to do things, that they are expected to follow. 

Society in the UK has also created a discouraging pressure for women to have life sorted by the age of 30, but is this too much? Of course, it is! 

Dress: Mr Larkin / Bangles: Ol & Co/ Necklaces: Ol & Co / Earrings: Still With You / Shoes: Converse 

Admittedly I used to feel quite anxious about approaching mid 20's and eventually 30 (and still do to a certain extent); as a young impressionable adult in the sixth form, I succumbed to the pressures of tutors telling me University was the only answer, the only plausible option if I wanted a successful career in the creative industry. Ten years later and what do I have to show for it? A 3-year art school portfolio reflecting a lot of time wasting, a CV exhibiting how to hop between mindless retail jobs and some excellent travelling pictures from a year in Oz. (albeit a bloody great year). It's only in the past 18 months I think I've somewhat started to get my (for want of a better word) 'shit' together, and I'm totally ok with that now! Because through the power of Instagram and blogging I've connected with an excess of women who are entirely in the identical situation to myself (More so than women who have 'got life sorted' so to speak). Meeting like-minded women has made me feel less guilty about what I thought was a waste of 9 years and taught those previous years are what formed me as a person.  As I approach the final few years of my 20's, I'm starting to find my feet in the world of influencers and understand myself. I'm more excited for this chapter of my life than any other point thus far. Encouragement (not pressure!) from close friends, blogging pals and family has given me the confidence to listen to my heart and finally change my destiny. Later this year I will be making 'that leap of faith.' (Those of you who know, know) So watch this space for more news!  

From a young age, it can feel like we are trained to follow life's generic template. But must we achieve certain things by a certain age? Must there really be a prime age? Everyone's definition of success is different, but I feel at no point should you feel pressured by age, the saying 'age is just number' couldn't ring truer. It's important to set your own individual goals in life regardless of society's norms. 

Sk-II's survey also revealed there is a huge urge to open up and talk about these topics as 7 out of 10 women in Asia surveyed state that anxiety stemming from ageing is something they want to discuss with others. 
So let's talk about it! The more we open up and empower others, the better. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you feel pressures of getting older? How do you overcome these pressures? 

 

In collaboration with SK-II - all opinions are my own. Photography by Oliver Hooson

*This survey was conducted online by Procter & Gamble in May 2017 among 4280 women and 3261 men ages 18 years of age and older in the following countries Japan (n=1006), Korea (n=1010), China (n=1006), Hong Kong (n= 301), Taiwan (n= 303), Thailand (n= 302), Malaysia (n=309), Indonesia (n= 304), United States (n= 1000) , United Kingdom (n= 1000) and Australia (n=1000). 

THREE WAYS TO WEAR FLATS (WITHOUT FEELING FLAT)

The words 'ballerina flat' scare me and bring back some haunting outfit memories - until I saw these of course. With the addition of tie up ribbons, Ballerina flats needn't be basic anymore. This upgraded style works for me because you essentially look practical, but with flair. If you're like me and haven't got round to giving your feet some TLC, these are a reasonable alternative to a strappy sandal. 

Tie Up Ballerinas: Dune / Trousers: Nanushka / Shirt: COS / Bag: Kozha Numbers 

One of the many joys of backless shoes is they don't rub on your heels. Good riddance to the unbearable pain of breaking in a new pair of loafers. The second joy, when paired with trousers, is the flattering ankle flash making them a foolproof smart flat for spring. 

Backless loafers: Dune / Dress: Mr Larkin / Bag: Cult Gaia / Jeans: Levi's (similar here and here) / Earrings: Finery 

Never underestimate the power of the white brogue to elevate a work look. Anything masculine and clumpy I'm like a moth to a flame. I practically live in black brogues or oxfords at work so white acts as the perfect alternative for summer. This navy and white combo has been a favourite of late for day to day meetings.  

Lace Up Brogue: Dune / Trousers: Acne / Coat: Zadig and Voltaire / Shirt: Fabiana Pigna / Earrings: Finery 

Collaboration with Dune. All words and styling are my own. 

CELEBRATE THE EVERYDAY

Viewers of my Instagram stories over the recent months will have noticed Dean, and I have kicked 2017 off with a massive workload..renovating a house. It took us the best part of 2016 to get our hands on a bedraggled terraced in need of love, so now it's all hands on deck to get us into our new home before the year is up. The past four months have been demanding to say the last, more so for Dean than me because he's the one spending his weekends carrying out the structural work. Neither of us has taken a break or given ourselves the opportunity to step back and appreciate how far we've come already this year, so when The White Company invited me to get involved in their Celebrate The Everyday campaign, I knew it was time to do just that. 

What better place to come to appreicate everyday simple pleasures, than Copenhagen. We're here for 4 nights, with one plan only: to relax.  Quickly becoming one of my favourite cities, Copenhagen couldn't be more different from the London rat race. The change of pace is extremely refreshing, so far our time has been spent relishing warm pastries at Meyers Bageri, biking along the lakes and moseying through Assistens Cemetary. (Along with eating lots of good food of course). 

For this trip I packed with a simple mix and match approach in mind, 3 trousers, 3 tops, one pair of shoes and one jacket (oh and a raincoat just to be on the safe side). Althought were still struggling to shake the spring chill, I'm glad to be ditching the heavy winter layers finally. The White Company's new linen collection is the perfect mix of smart & casual. This classic shirt, paired with Oxford trousers and a basket, to cram baked goods into of course, have been such easy and comfortable pieces to wear whilst exploring Copenhagen.  

Linen Shirt: The White Company / Linen Trousers: The White Company / Basket: The White Company / Trench: Nanushka / Shoes: Common Projects 

In collaboration with The White Company. All words & styling are my own. 

COS AW17

Understated and elegant, COS Autumn/Winter 17 presents reworked classics inspired by architectural lines and soft tailoring. A collection made up of rich textures, geometric drapes and a bold industrial palette to form easy, wearable and effortless pieces.  Even before the English summer has begun, COS never fail to prematurely excite me for colder months.  

ALL WHITE

Shirt: COS (last summer - similar here and here) / Jeans: Vintage Levi 501 (similar here and here) / Shoes: COS / Bag: Danielle Foster / Watch: Mondaine 

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LET'S GET PERSONAL

I have a thing for monogrammed accessories. These perfectly personalised travel companions from Kikki.K are ideal for my upcoming trip to Copenhagen.  

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